"When do you have bad days?" Teenagers have a way of catching you off guard. That day, when asked about my bad days I was stopped in my tracks.
I have had my fair share of bad days, weeks, months. Especially following Boden's birth. However, I answered as honestly as I could. Remaining present in that day, reflecting on my recent life events and said "I can only remember bad moments, not really days." This got me thinking, about how my perspective has changed...drastically.
I am sure some of you have a toddler, know a toddler, heard a toddler. Well, I do and boy is he the sweetest and sassiest little 3 year old. He likes to challenge almost everything these days with a "But, why?" I definitely take lots of deep breaths and remind myself that one day getting out the door to 3K won't take 30 minutes with endless questions. But, I can remember when those challenging mornings used to set the tone for my day. I ALLOWED it to control my mood, thoughts, feelings, actions for the rest of the day. Similar to when I was getting little to no rest thanks to Boden's shenanigan's all night. I remember counting the hours, then minutes of rest I would be getting before the next day would start. I vividly remember my negative thought process about how my day would go...before it even started. Like I have said before, its hard to remember. But reflection is important, no matter how painful.
Through reflection I have noticed a change in my perspective. I have the ability to control how my day goes, even if life throws me all sorts of parenting, marriage, professional, family curve balls. My perspective has changed from bad days to bad moments.
The good thing with moments, is they come and go. Bad days, they last...for far too long. Making this change in mindset is not easy, but it is worth it. It takes time, practice, and reflection. Try for one day, focus on the moments that challenge you. Don't get lost in the day, remain grounded and present in the moment.
I welcome any feedback on how it affected you.
We all deserve better days + wellness.
About the Author
My name is Alyssa. I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Working on helping people through the Ridges + Valleys of life.